People Who Stand in Their Own Way

I have several friends who want things in their lives. Especially love and new relationships. And they ALWAYS seem to find ways NOT to have them or keep them. Either because of their own defense mechanisms (sarcasm, standoffishness) that they unconsciously use to keep people at bay and feel safe, or because they get afraid and are unwilling to take the emotional or logistical risks necessary to make things work out (i.e. moving). And I don't think they have any idea that they are the ones standing in the way of what they want. Makes me really sad. I've tried addressing it with them before, but they just can't hear it, or feel powerless to do anything about it. Not easy, for sure, but does make me really, really sad because in every case they are special, good, eminently lovable people.

I certainly have my own blind spots as well in life, but taking a risk and going all-out for love has never been one of them, so it makes me particularly sensitive/"allergic" to people who have this problem.

I love you, guys. Figure out what YOU are doing to stand in your own way, and stop it so that you can have what you want (and DESERVE!) in life! Let me know if I can help. I'm here for you.