Sunday, April 06, 2008

Bachelor Weekend


Wilbert is on a business trip to Germany for a few days, so I get to spend the whole weekend by myself. After making breakfast for him, putting together a little care package for his train journey and dropping him off at the station, I came home and didn’t quite know what to do with myself. I have historically used eating and shopping to combat boredom (and any number of other uncomfortable feelings), and I had to be very vigilant for that yesterday. I managed to stay inside and do useful things like cleaning the stove until after the shops closed, which was a major victory in overcoming my ego patterns. I put Oprah & Eckhart Tolle on my iPhone (if you haven’t checked this out yet, download it for free on iTunes) and slowly wandered in the direction of our local Japanese restaurant in another part of town (about 2.4km each way). Because my heel isn’t fully healed, I took it sort of easy and didn’t rush, but that went really well with what I was listening to. I realized on the way how much of my local environment I had actually missed out on by not walking more over the last 10 years, because I discovered some interesting new things I’d DRIVEN by a million times but never really paid attention to before. Like a little war monument about 2 blocks from my house that commemorates four Dutch men who were killed on that spot by the Nazis during WW II. The podcast I was listening to only heightened the experience of living in the moment and noticing (but not judging) the nature around me. It was a nice walk. Burned a few calories too.

I usually hate eating alone, so I brought a friend with me, my MacBook Air, and ended up eating sashimi and Japanese vegetables while chatting online with a friend in the U.S. who has also had lap-band surgery and has a gay son. It was a nice chat and I felt like I’d been out to dinner with someone. :-)

Afterwards I walked home, listened to more Eckhart & Oprah and came across this beautiful scene while crossing the bridge (the photo doesn’t do it justice), and right afterwards had one of those ZING moments listening to the podcast. Won’t go into too much detail, but I essentially learned the the origin of my materialistic nature. Doing something about it is a different story; not so clear on that part yet. :-)

Had a good night’s sleep, and am now going to get some breakfast, jump into the car, go to the Keukenhof flower gardens and do some photography, and then come home and go out to dinner with some friends, so it should be a pretty fabulous day!

Thursday, April 03, 2008

Good Time in Amsterdam

I had lots of fun today on an assignment for work. It was a roundtable discussion on digital television on Amsterdam; a paid opportunity for our company to talk about its role in the industry. It will be published in a magazine next month. I was there with another technology vendor and the chief technology officer for one of the local cable companies. It was moderated by the magazine’s editor, and we spent two hours talking about the trends in technology and products in the industry. What consumers want and what they probably don’t. Was really fun to be talking about something that I feel passionate about and love. Funny that I’m one of the few people in my TV company who really loves TV. :-)

Tuesday, April 01, 2008

What Goes Up Must Come Down

After thinking my foot was 99% better, I woke up this morning and my Achilles tendon on my right foot was stiff and burning when I extend it too far. The problem is that it extends when I walk. I had just been thinking yesterday how grateful I was that everything was better again. Oh well. Will just have to baby it again for another couple of weeks before it gets better again, then I’ll have to be REALLY careful for the medium to long term until it’s all the way better again.

Saturday, March 29, 2008

MacBook + MacBook Pro + iPod + iPod + iPod + 300 = MacBook Air


This is the insane formula I used this morning to get my hands on the amazingly gorgeous MacBook Air I'm typing this blog entry on in my favorite cafe. I had wanted one of these ever since Steve announced its availability a few months ago, but the price put it out of reach. Especially for the faster version with flash drive. I had planned to wait until I went to the U.S., but this morning I had a brainstorm: instead of hanging on to all the stuff I'd managed to collect over the past few years (other Apple laptops and iPods), I traded it ALL in at the iCentre in Uitgeest and, with a small additional payment, got my hands on this gorgeous little piece of technology. It made sense... I have a wonderful iMac at home, and I'm using my iPhone for portable internet. This is the perfect "laptop-to-go" - flash drive, so no moving parts, and that means the battery lasts longer as well. I've got a mobile internet subscription, so I can use it anywhere in the country! Almost as fast as WiFi. 

Don't know what it is about me that loves to have new toys, but I do. Some people are into alocohol, drugs, whatever. I'm out of the food business. So toys is all I have left. :-) And I'm super-happy with this one! Thanks, Steve!

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Fitna

Right now I'm watching the short film by Dutch right-wing anti-Islam politician Geert Wilders. It's pretty disgusting.  Ironically, in a country that is still highly sensitive about the atrocities of World War II, it looks very much like a Nazi propaganda film. Everything in it is real, and it shows a very ugly side of Islam and it's very most extremest believers, but I realized while watching it that you could make the exact same film about the Catholic Church and the evils that have been done in its name throughout distant (and recent) history. 

The focus of the movie is some of the most violent verses of the Koran and how people use them to justify horrible and unspeakable philosophies of world domination and violence. It's about converting the world to Islam or killing those who won't. It's about a 3-year old girl who has been trained like a monkey to say that Jews are pigs. And it's obviously meant to create great fear among Islamophobes who are afraid that their culture will be overrun by people of different beliefs that they can't relate to.

What I'm having difficulty with (and I assume this was Wilders' goal) is deciding whether this is deplorable propaganda that only spreads hatred of a major world religion and its followers, or whether it is a valid wake-up call; a concentrated and shocking message that is meant to alert the world to the dangers of Islamic extremism. I've been thinking of it more and more in terms of the Germans who ignored the initial signs of danger from Nazi-ism. The complication here is that this particular ideology of Islamic hate comes from a religion, not a political movement, which makes it even less open to inspection, debate and criticism because of the liberal, tolerant, sometimes overly politically correct nature of modern (Western) society. So we may be getting into a situation where the very values that we are trying to defend in Western society are the ones that will cause us to ignore the danger out there. 

I'm a generally very liberally minded person, so I usually tend toward wanting to embrace tolerance at almost any cost - God knows it would be pretty hypocritical for any gay man to do otherwise. But at the same time, this film pretty effectively links violent acts from an increasingly large (and effective) but still FRINGE group to the holy scriptures of a very large group of people, and shows the unprecedented death and destruction these people are causing in modern times. Perhaps it would be easier to defend Islam if there were more Islamic moderates who were out there condemning extremist violence. I've yet to ever see a prominent moderate Islamic movement that strongly rejects the Islamist doctrine of the spread of their religion through violence. Is it because the media doesn't find it as interesting as the fanatics? Could very well be. Still, if I as a Christian were faced with a significant, global violent movement of people from my faith, I would be out there fighting it tooth and nail. 

I also look at this from the perspective of a gay man who has found refuge in a liberal European country that embraces me for who I am, and I do feel threatened by the (often not very religious) Muslim youth in The Netherlands who usually have a very different attitude toward homosexuality than their Dutch counterparts - and over the last year have been increasingly expressing this through anti-gay attacks in our larger cities. And that is surviving into the second generation that is pretty well culturally integrated into Dutch society as well. I of course have a major problem with that - I moved to this country to embrace its values and its culture, so in many ways I can very much relate to the Dutch who feel threatened by a group of people, some of whom actively reject Dutch culture.  

Anybody who is fanatical is dangerous and should be fought against. Christian, Muslim, Jew, makes no difference at all. But how do we fight against them without becoming fanatics ourselves and becoming exactly who we hate so much? That is the challenge and the difficulty here. That is the challenge of a liberal society, and I don't know if it can be won. Wilders has obviously decided to cross that line with this film and fight fanaticism with fanaticism, and I can't support that. But I also don't think we have the luxury of political correctness anymore. The other side has already gone past that point, and we need to find ways to respond that are effective but that don't compromise our integrity and values. And I have no answer to how to do that. 

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Half Way!

So yesterday it finally happened. I'm officially half way to my weight loss goal of 76kg (168lbs). 38 down and 38 to go. In about 6 months (with a little bit of prep work ahead of time). Not too shabby! I'll probably cross back and forth over that line a few times this week before diving definitively below it... this time forever.

It's been surprisingly easy, and I've had a tremendous amount of help for which I'm very grateful. It's likely to get more difficult from here on out; common wisdom is that the 1st half is the easiest and the 2nd half (and specifically at the 50% mark) things can get a lot trickier. But I'm dedicated, educated and supported, so should go fine!

Monday, March 24, 2008

Easter Bunny Sunday


I had a really nice Easter Sunday! I'd gone to bed early on Saturday, so I was up bright and early the next morning. We hadn't actually planned to do anything, which felt disappointing to me, so I quickly jumped on line and found out about church services at the American Protestant Church in The Hague. Knowing Wilbert had gone to sleep late and wouldn't be up for a while, I jumped in the car and drove for an hour to get there. The weather was beautiful at the time, and the Dutch landscape is just starting to green up and daffodils are EVERYWHERE. Even along the highways. So it was a pleasurable trip. 

Got there right on time to experience the 10 a.m. "contemporary" service. The music was good, and the sermon was excellent, but it just sort of wasn't my thing. For me, church needs to be either traditional (from my UCC upbringing) or old school gospel (from my MCC experience in D.C.). For some reason, anything else feels to me like the one trying to be the other (i.e. white folk trying to have black church). Just doesn't feel natural to me. But I'm totally aware that that's just because of my own unique history. 

I stuck around for the 11:30 service, which was far more traditional and much more up my alley with the old hymns. The sermon was the same, but I didn't mind hearing it a second time. I understand the pastor is at the end of her tenure there, which is sad because I like her. We'll have to see who her replacement is before I decide whether or not it's worth the 25 euros worth of gas it takes to get there and back every week. I was a little bit sad to see and hear that the choir was pretty small and not up to the standard of quality of choirs I've participated in in the past - again, my bar is set very high after having sung in some really excellent choirs. I've also begun to notice that my singing voice has improved since I've lost so much weight. I guess my voice box had been constricted by the fat in my neck; so another blessing to add to my list! 

At the late service, I got to sat next to two of my colleagues from work, both of whom had lost their wives recently - one as recently as this week. I greatly admired their faith and strength, and continue to pray for them and mourn their losses. They're both great guys.

So then I jumped back in the car for the drive home. On the way back, I called Wilbert and expressed my frustration that we hadn't planned anything special for the rest of the day. He sort of just sees it as a normal weekend day, so he hadn't really planned anything. "Maybe we'll go to my brother's for coffee later." My intuition told me something wasn't quite right here, and indeed his brother had planned a whole nice day with Wilbert's parents and his niece and nephew, and had just sort of assumed that we were invited. I can't imagine NOT spending Easter or Christmas with family somehow, so we made more formal plans and headed over there in the afternoon and had a great afternoon/evening. Wilbert's brother Perry is always such a gracious host. 

At the end of the night, Wilbert asked his nephew, Thomas (who was born literally the week after we met for the first time!), how much he weighed. It turns out that this 10 1/2 -year old kid weighs exactly the amount I've lost to date (give or take 1 kg)! I looked it up and he's completely average for an 11-year old. So that's how much I've lost. An 11-year old kid! :-) Wilbert picked him up (with great difficulty) and looked at me in amazement. :-) 

So I got my church fix and my family fix for Easter 2008! And a nice validation of the progress I've made so far.

Friday, March 21, 2008

Spring Snow

Love this shot with the fluffy wet snow that fell all morning. Was beautiful with the daffodils as a backdrop, but Angel was not amused.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

My First High School Boyfriend

He'll kill me for doing this, but that's OK. He deserves it. Tonight I found this picture on the web of the first guy I ever "had a thing" with. "Dated" is far too strong a word... we were 15 or 16 and in high school, and we were just friends who "explored" together. Until of course I mentioned the G-word and he didn't speak to me for the rest of high school. Except for one drunken episode in which he apologized profusely for having been such a jerk to me before going back to the silent treatment again the next day. I was really devastated and it really ruined a lot of my high school experience, but sexuality in the 80's was still a bit of a tricky subject in Iowa.

He was funny and really smart, and seems like he's doing well in life now. I wish him the best and hope we reconnect someday. It was 25 years ago, so I think I should probably be over it by now. :-)

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Christo at -33.4kg


24/02/2008
Originally uploaded by Krishiqua
A lot of dear friends and family who don't see me regularly have been asking for a recent picture so they can see the "new" me after losing so much weight (33.4kg/74lbs). I don't have a whole body shot (wouldn't really want to share it online anyway!), but here's a good picture Wilbert took of me this afternoon at the beach. I think you should be able to see it in my face. Much more chin, much more cheek and some interesting lines in my face that are starting to betray my age a bit more but were essentially buried under subcutaneous fat before. I'm making good progress... at 44% of my goal, but things are slowing down and I'm going to have to work twice as hard to get the rest of the way. Wish me luck, and thanks for your ongoing support!

Wilbert at the Beach


24/02/2008
Originally uploaded by Krishiqua
Today we went for a walk on the beach. Remarkable for two reasons. 1) It was flippin' FREEZING outside by the time we got there, and walking on the beach when it's that cold and windy gives me a serious ear ache, but the crazy Dutch seem to love it, and 2) I have often refused to do this in the past because it always felt really "unsafe" to me because of my size and lack of physical fitness. I would get worried that my back might go out, or I would have to go to the bathroom and there wouldn't be one, or I'd get into a physical situation (like a high sand dune) that I couldn't handle. All pretty much excuses to avoid physical activity (and pain). So today when he asked me I said an automatic "NO!" until I thought about it for a while and realized that old tape doesn't apply anymore. So I said yes, and it was just fine (except for the freezing wind). Reminds me that I'm a new person with new abilities and significantly reduced limitations. Praise God!

Japanese Girlfriends


24/02/2008
Originally uploaded by Krishiqua
Rocq-e is a fellow Purmerender I met at our favorite Japanese restaurant last year, and we keep bumping into each other there - and tonight it happened again, but with Wilbert there as well for the first time. She is originally from California but has lived in Purmerend for almost 20 years, and she and her husband Patrick are loads of fun and have very interesting lives traveling around Holland with Rocq-e's show Big, Black & Beautiful. Funny thing is we'd just bought tickets to her show in Amsterdam this afternoon! Now that's a coincidence!

Friday, February 01, 2008

A little victory celebration...

What is the only logical present for a guy who has lost 32kg's?


This King Watch by Marc Ecko is fit for none other than a king. If you feel fit to take the position, you can pick up this large watch that is a sure way to make sure you stand out from the rest with it's brilliant polish and multiple rows of rhinestones. To start out this watch features 3 hand Japan movement set on a 3 tier textured dial with rows of rhinestones and web patterns. On top of that the numbers and details are accented with yellow gold and surrounded by a large 48mm bezel with 2 more rows of stones nestled in a polished stainless case and wrapped together with a matching 2 tone polished stainless steel bracelet.


Sunday, January 20, 2008

Fancy Dress Party


Our annual company party took place again tonight, and Wilbert came up with a great costume idea for the "Variety" theme they had this year. Well done, old chap!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Smoking Policy in Purmerend

Below is an article published in our local newspaper about some research I did in our town on the smoking policy of restaurants, first in Dutch, then in English. Speaks for itself.

Maar twee restaurants rookvrij
Niet-roker vogelvrij in marktstad

DOOR MARCO VAN NEK

PURMEREND - Twee 'restaurants' in Purmerend zijn volledig rookvrij. Een verademing voor fervent niet-roker Christopher Schouten. Maar in de meeste eetgelegenheden in de marktstad kan hij niet opgelucht ademhalen. Precies de helft van de restaurants heeft geen aparte ruimte voor niet-rokers. Dat vindt Schouten niet meer van deze tijd.

De Purmerender is blij met het beleid van koffiehuis Kaldi in de Breedstraat eq MC Donald's aan de Verzetslaan waar een total rookverbod geldt. Hij vindt dat de overige restaurants daar een voorbeeld aan moeten nemen. Naar aanleiding van het bericht dat in vijftig tot wel zeventig procent van de horeca in Nederland al sinds i januari een rookverbod zou zijn ingevoerd, zette Schouten met een aantal vrienden een onderzoek naar de rookregels in Purmerendse restaurants op. Het resultaat van die inventarisatie noemt hij schokkend. Op 1 juli wordt het wettelijk verplichte rookverbod van kracht, maar tot die tijd lijkt de niet-roker in de marktstad vogelvrij bij een avondje uit eten.

Schouten: ”Purmerend loopt zwaar achter de trend aan. Kijk eens naar Amsterdam. Daar zijn al 37 restaurants volledig rookvrij. Maar waar kan je in Purmerend lekker eten zonder dat je stinkend naar huis gaat? Want naast de gezondheidsrisico's die je als meeroker ongewild loopt, is dat een tweede grote ergernis: de stank. Die trekt in je kleren en je loopt er mee rond. Toen ik laatst in een restaurant in Purmerend vroeg of we ergens anders konden zitten omdat aan alle tafeltjes rondom ons werd gerookt, reageerde een vrouw aan één van die tafels: 'het valt toch wel mee? Ik wilde eigenlijk zeggen 'als ik een scheet-voor je gezicht laat, valt dat dan ook mee!: Want zo smerig is het als je in de tabaksrook zit."

Houtje-touwtje
Dat 45 procent van de restaurants rokers en niet-rokers wel gescheiden houdt, zegt volgens Schouten helemaal niets over de positie van de niet-roker in die eetgelegenheden. ”Waar rokers en niet-rokers worden gescheiden, gebeurt dat vaak heel erg op houtje-touwtje basis. Er is slechte of geen afzuiging van tabaksrook, er staan een paar tafeltjes voor niet-rokers achterin of er mag aan de tafels niet worden gerookt, maar aan de bar wel."

Vanwege het vrije rookbeleid in zijn stamkroeg 'Het Hoedje van de Koningin' op de Kaasmarkt, komt Schouten daar niet meer. ,,Dat heb ik ze ook verteld. Ik laat via mijn portemonnee weten wat ik van het rookbeleid vind. Ze hebben daar nota bene twee verdiepingen, dus hoe moeilijk kan het zijn om gescheiden ruimten te maken?"

Only two smoke-free restaurants
Non-smokers out of luck in Market City

by MARCO VAN NEK

PURMEREND - Two 'restaurants' in Purmerend are completely smoke free. This is a breath of fresh air for fervent non-smoker Christopher Schouten. But in most restaurants in Market City he can’t catch his breath. Exactly half of the restaurants have no non-smoking sections. Schouten thinks this is old-fashioned thinking.

The Purmerender is happy with the policies of coffeehouse Kaldi on the Breedstraat and McDonald's on the Verzetslaan where they ban smoking altogether. He thinks that other restaurants should take a cue from them. Because of the news that fifty to seventy percent of restaurants in the Netherlands had already banned smoking as of the first of January, Schouten and some friends did a survey of the smoking policies of restaurants in Purmerend. He calls the results of the survey shocking. The government ban on smoking starts on the first of July, but until that time, it looks like non-smokers are out of luck if they want to eat out.

Schouten: ”Purmerend lags behind the national trend. Look at Amsterdam. There they already have 37 restaurants that are completely non-smoking. But where can you have a nice meal in Purmerend without going home stinking? Because in addition to the health risks you suffer as a non-smoker, to add insult to injury you go home smelling like an ashtray. You get smoke in your clothes and in your hair and you walk around with it until you shower or wash your clothes. When we went out to eat a few months ago at a restaurant in Purmerend I asked if we could be seated somewhere else because of all the smokers around us. One of the patrons exclaimed, “Come on, it’s not that bad!” and I wanted to tell her “Well if I farted in your face, how bad would that be?” Because that’s how disgusting cigarette smoke is to me.”

Half Ass
Despite the fact that 45 percent of the restaurants offer smoking and non-smoking sections, that doesn’t offer much benefit to the non-smoker, according to Schouten. ”Where they have separate sections, this is usually done in a really half-ass way. There is poor or no ventilation, certainly not what would be required for cigarette smoke, and there are often only a few tables for non-smokers in the back or the restaurant seating is smoke-free but you can smoke at the bar.”

Because of the free smoking policy of his favorite café, 'Het Hoedje van de Koningin' on the Kaasmarkt, Schouten has stopped going there. “I’ve told them that as well. I’ll make my opinion known through my wallet. And considering they have two floors there, how difficult could it be to create a non-smoking section?"

Friday, January 04, 2008

People Who Stand in Their Own Way

I have several friends who want things in their lives. Especially love and new relationships. And they ALWAYS seem to find ways NOT to have them or keep them. Either because of their own defense mechanisms (sarcasm, standoffishness) that they unconsciously use to keep people at bay and feel safe, or because they get afraid and are unwilling to take the emotional or logistical risks necessary to make things work out (i.e. moving). And I don't think they have any idea that they are the ones standing in the way of what they want. Makes me really sad. I've tried addressing it with them before, but they just can't hear it, or feel powerless to do anything about it. Not easy, for sure, but does make me really, really sad because in every case they are special, good, eminently lovable people.

I certainly have my own blind spots as well in life, but taking a risk and going all-out for love has never been one of them, so it makes me particularly sensitive/"allergic" to people who have this problem.

I love you, guys. Figure out what YOU are doing to stand in your own way, and stop it so that you can have what you want (and DESERVE!) in life! Let me know if I can help. I'm here for you.

Friday, December 28, 2007

Home Sweet Home!

Pictures forthcoming, but just a quick word to everyone that we made it home safely. It was a very pleasant trip without any incident... Wilbert always makes it so easy to travel... he's so helpful and laid back - a good balance to my hyper-alertness and tendency to get stressed out. Probably one of the best/easiest/most complicated trips we've ever done, what with long transfer times/distances and train travel in addition to air travel. Thanks, honey!

Also thanks to the many people we spent time with! Especially enjoyable to see were Mike & Joel, Key & Perry, Joel & Joanna, Fritz & Lou, Ashley & Stephan, Mel, Heidi, Merrick & Cristian, and Mom & Dad. Also Ellen, Oliver and Glen and friends! Thanks, guys! It was a fun trip thanks to you!

More to come, but first I've got about 5 hours of sleep to catch up on! A belated Merry Christmas to all!

Monday, December 24, 2007

Family Christmas in Boston

This week I finally got to meet my little nephew, born last May. He's a gorgeous little man, fairly even-tempered, and loves to smile at us a lot. Nice to finally meet you, Cristian!

Christmas with the family in Boston has had its usual fireworks, especially with my brother. My father and sister (and later my mother) and I have had some very honest and vulnerable discussions that I think have led to a much better situation for all of us, which I'm grateful for. Unfortunately, that didn't happen with my brother, and he left this afternoon. Too bad.

Tomorrow shopping and a movie before my niece's Christmas play and Christmas Eve dinner. Most of the presents have already been opened due to my brother's strange schedule, so not sure exactly what we're going to do on Christmas Day! On Boxing Day we take the Amtrak train back to New Amsterdam (New York) and on the 27th we fly back to Old Amsterdam. We're looking forward to seeing friends for their pre-New Year's Eve party, though we've yet to figure out what we're doing for New Year's Eve!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Whassup, cuz?

We arrived safely to New York City last night after a four-hour flight delay from Amsterdam. Have a raging head cold. But that's where the drama ends. We have a great hotel at a fair price in NJ with the ferry to Midtown literally outside the front door... cool! Went to the top of the Empire State Building today and saw New York from above with pristine (freezing) weather. Went shopping and both got hooked up with fancy new headphones (I must admit that Wilbert's are fancier than mine!) and bought some new clothes that are two sizes smaller than what I was wearing before surgery! :-) 

Tonight went out to dinner with my New York cousins and their spouses (we missed you, Perry!). They are an extraordinary, talented, generous, fun group of people and we very much enjoyed our time with them. Thanks for your presence and your presents, guys! We hope to see them here next week when we're back from Boston after Christmas on our way home. Hopefully their parents will be here as well... that would be an amazing bonus!

We're in at a decent hour, just had some hot tea at the bar, and are ready for bed. I may stay in tomorrow to "uitzieken" (ride out my head cold) while Wilbert hits fabric and knitting stores. Wish me luck!

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Scott Kalwishky & Joel Larson


Was talking to some old college buddies this weekend and a name came up of a guy I hadn't thought about for a while: Scott Kalwishky (left and the leftmost guy in the picture to the right). We were never friends, but I knew everyone in Iowa City in the early 90's because I was the doorman at the gay club there for three years. And I saw him every weekend. He was younger than I was (I was in grad school) and we ran in different circles, but I was still curious to find out what happened to him. Then I found out he had died. Not sure of what - doesn't really matter at all - but did some good reminiscing with Joel and Tim about him and was sad to see him having left us. Joel especially had very positive memories about how Scott made him laugh a lot. 

At the same time I was looking for info about Scott, I came across information about another acquaintance, but this time from Des Moines, Joel Larson. I vaguely remember when this happened, but I never knew all the details. He was essentially murdered in Minneapolis (while cruising Loring Park) by someone who was deeply conflicted about their own sexuality. The murderer is now an out gay man in prison, having killed TWO gay guys, including a former state congressman, and wounding another. This murder occurred pre-Matthew Shepard, when the straight world still looked at a gay man getting killed while cruising as a bit of a freak show. He deserved better.

As I talked about with Tim and Joel, it's stuff like that that puts pressure on the rest of us to live our dreams and to live life to the fullest. 

California Episcopals Split from Anglican Communion


I was furious when I read this. I am a very practical Christian and have very little tolerance for academic Christians who sit around trying to nitpick ever little last piece of Scripture to find out all the little rules that can make them as exclusive and as different as possible from the rest of humanity, which is what they are doing. It's an absolute CRIME AGAINST GOD to be doing that at a time when there is so much suffering and war in the world. They should keep themselves busy with solving that. I hope they lose all their property to the Episcopal Church.

I found their website and wrote them. You can too at van@sjoaquin.net and jgladstone@gladstonepr.com


Good riddance, fundamentalist cretins. The Anglican Communion doesn't need sex-obsessed, misogynistic troglodytes within its ranks.

You go down to South America and contemplate the finer points of scripture; with their stellar tradition of democracy and respect for human rights it sounds like it's right where you belong. The rest of us real Christians will continue to feed the poor, heal the sick, console the downtrodden and remember that "The greatest of these is LOVE." I wish those among your diocese who still remember this strength and hope in their search for a new church home.

I speak now out of anger - a language you probably understand with your petty, vengeful schoolmarm of a God. But under that is a deep sorrow for how horribly you've lost your way. And how sad I am that there is no place for people like us in your view of the Universe - when all we are doing is loving one another.

IHS.

Christopher & Wilbert
Married in the Christian Church 23 June this year

Friday, November 23, 2007

Just the way I am...

A telling exchange between me and a colleague:

Christopher: "This whole project is going to be really complicated."
Susan: "Why don't you do something easy?"
Christopher: "Since when do I do easy?"

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

More Weekend Pictures

At Starbucks, which opened last week at Schiphol Airport. This has the distinction of being the first Starbucks in Holland open to the general public. The other two are at Nike Headquarters in Hilversum and past the security checkpoint at the airport (which means you only get your latte with a a valid plane ticket). This is one of the largest ones I've ever seen, with an impressive extended seating area. WiFi available, but expensive. €12 for 90 minutes, if I remember correctly.

My colleague Karen at work, who has the distinction of being the only other Iowan working at my company. One of my staff refers to the two of us as "Children of the Corn"! :-) This was at the same company outing as with the owl (see below).

Smile for the birdy!


Here I'm getting up close and personal with a huge owl at a company outing on the Dutch island of Terschelling. It was my first trip there, and despite excessive and unannounced sportiness being required of me, I had a great time with my colleagues.

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Late Trick Or Treat!



I just got these gorgeous pictures of my niece and nephew Cristián and Merrick from Boston. My nephew was born about 9 weeks prematurely last summer, but doesn't he look FABULOUS next to his blood-sucking big sister? :-) We can't wait to see them at Christmas!

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Let the java flow!

From Michael (regarding an earlier post about the Starbucks behind immigration at Schiphol):

Well, after waiting a few months they are finaly opening up 2 more Starbucks in front of security at Schiphol Plaza. One is across from the Burger King, next to Per Tutti, the other (larger) one will be to the far left at arrivals 3 across from the AH and Hema.They are supposed ot open up this Thurseday, November 15th.

I can tell you that this has created quite a bit of excitement within my team at work. We're all Starbucks slaves and love it! And now I have an excuse to take the train to work every day and get some additional exercise by walking to and from the station... and getting off at the airport to go pick up my daily latte (skinny, of course!).

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Book Suggestion


One of my best friends from college, Mike (a.k.a. Sister Jennifur Sledge), is partnered with one of the most bitingly funny yet sweet people I think I've ever met, Joel, and he expresses that unique combination of virtues through many different things, including musical theater, teaching, aerobics, go-go dancing, and writing hysterically funny books. His first book, Gay Haiku, was SO funny to ready, it had me in stitches forever, and I hate poetry. A sample:

I don't understand.
You love it when I do that-
Wait, no. That's Stephen.

Well, now he has a new book coming out in May 2008 (see left). I seriously suggest you pre-order it on Amazon and check it out!
You can also check out his website.

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Funny Square Bug


Funny Square Bug
Originally uploaded by Krishiqua
I came across this while wandering through the National Botanical Gardens in Singapore. I have never seen anything like it before. Can anyone identify what kind of bug it is?

Ouch!

Makes you wish your name was Vanessa...

Sunday, November 04, 2007

Wedding Painting... Finally...

The quality of the photo could be better, but this is our painting that our guests helped paint at our wedding in June, finally hanging on the wall in our living room. The mirror around the outside is our "guest book", signed by everyone who attended our wedding party later that night. We love the fact that we'll be reminded of that special day and our friends and family on a daily basis, and we love Jasper's design, which was then split up into 18 pieces, and one or two of our guests each painted one of the panels (based on a small postage stamp-sized model they had to copy), not knowing what the whole original was supposed to look like. The result was great, but a little uneven, so it's slightly retouched; but the foundation was still made by our loved ones! Thanks to Jasper, Bries, Felix at the Kunstenarij for leading this special activity!

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Poessij bij


This is the single most loving and wonderful animal I've ever known. He is so affectionate and well-behaved, sometimes I don't know what I did to deserve him. He's one of my very best friends and he's always there for me. I love you, Angel! :-)

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Singapore Orchid Garden


Orchid Garden Entrance
Originally uploaded by Krishiqua
The orchid was declared the national flower of Singapore not all that very long ago and remains one of its biggest exports, sort of like tulips in Holland. This garden was beautiful and huge, but I couldn't stand to spend more than a little while there because it was so warm and humid. Perhaps when I'm another 100 pounds lighter I'll enjoy it more! :-)

Home Sweet Home!

Click to enlarge. Sorry about the Dutch, but after discovering Apple's Comic Life program on my Mac and finally figuring out what it was for, I couldn't resist posting this little experiment I made on the airplane. The first of many, I suspect. :-) It's essentially about my business trip and how much I missed Wilbert, and how happy I am to be home! Ah, newlyweds! :-)

Friday, October 26, 2007

Barry & Christo do Singapore


Our KLM flight attendant friend Barry is in Singapore too, so we went out and had a fun evening after I had my way with the Mac store at Wheelock Place on Orchard Road and Patterson. He bought us tickets to see Stardust, which was surprisingly good and I enjoyed it very much. Good call, sweetie darling! We then went out for steaks, and I ate half my plate as usual, which is just fine! We're going to get together for some shopping tomorrow before heading back to the airport for the long flight home (almost 14 hours!). He's even going to drive me home, which is really sweet of him! We had a really nice talk (he may be Miss Nelly sometimes, but he's got a really good head on his shoulders!) and cleared up some long-standing misconceptions we'd had about each other, which was really great, because Wilbert and I really value his and Richard's friendship. We love you like sisters, boys!

First Leopard in Singapore


I have become an incredible Mac geek/snob in the past six months or so, after having thrown every Microsoft-based PC out of the house (except for Wilbert's) in utter disgust and frustration. Death to Vista.  So I just HAD to be at the Mac store in Singapore to stand in line for the new OS X Leopard operating system. And I was THE FIRST PERSON IN SINGAPORE TO BUY AND INSTALL IT! :-) I also won some prizes for being first! An Apple backpack, coffee mug, notebook, and some other cool swag. Meet some nice people too. Was super fun, and am enjoying it already. 

Singapore

Arrived Tuesday afternoon in Singapore for Global Sales & Marketing Management meeting. Left Amsterdam at 9:30 at night and got in 4:00 the next afternoon after a 12-hour flight on a KLM 777, which was very comfortable. Slept well. 

Singapore is amazing! VERY multi-cultural, VERY Anglo-Asian, VERY modern, and VERY structured, friendly and easy to get around. Love it and will come back. Look it up on Wikipedia if you want to learn about a fascinating place!

iPods are cheap here. Got a 160GB new classic for myself and a 16GB touch for a colleague at work... saved a bundle. Mac OS X Leopard out tonight... will probably go for it despite already having it waiting for me at home. :-)

Keeping pretty well to my diet, though a challenge. Good for me!

Dear friend Barry from Purmerend, KLM flight attendant, arrived yesterday, so we'll hang out after my meeting and all day tomorrow before flying back together tomorrow night! SERIOUS coincidence!

Monday, October 22, 2007

Sunday, October 21, 2007

For Iowans and those who love us!

Only an Iowan would laugh at this one!!!!! And then pass it on to everyone they know in Iowa or anyone they know that has lived in Iowa!

This is so true.......... Jeff Foxworthy says you must be an Iowa if.............
  • You've never met any celebrities...and you don't really care.
  • Your idea of a traffic jam is ten cars waiting to pass a tractor on the highway.
  • "Vacation" means driving through the Amanas or going to Adventureland.
  • You've seen all the biggest bands ten years after they were popular.
  • You measure distance in minutes.
  • Down south to you means Missouri.
  • You know several people who have hit a deer.
  • You have no problem spelling or pronouncing Des Moines.
  • Your school classes were canceled because of cold.
  • Your school classes were canceled because of heat.
  • You know what "Hawks, Panthers, and Clones" are.
  • You've ridden the school bus for an hour each way.
  • You've had to switch from "heat" to "A/C" in the same day.
  • You think ethanol makes your truck "run a lot better".
  • You know what's knee-high by the Fourth of July.
  • Stores don't have bags, they have sacks.
  • You see a car running in the parking lot at the Quick Stop with no one in it no matter what time of the year.
  • You end your sentences with an unnecessary preposition. Example: "Where's my coat at?"
  • All the festivals across the state are named after a fruit, vegetable or animal.
  • You can locate Iowa on the US map.
  • Detassling was your first job or that of a brother or sister.
  • Your idea of a really great tenderloin is when the meat is twice as big as the bun and accompanied only by ketchup and a dill pickle slice.
  • You learn your pickup will run without a muffler.
  • You install security lights on your house and garage and leave both unlocked.
  • When asked how your trip was to any foreign, exotic place, you say "It was different".
  • You consider being called a "Pork Queen" an honor.
  • You carry jumper cables in your car.
  • You drink "pop".
  • You know what the numbers 80, 35, 280 and 380 mean.
  • You know what "cow chips" are.
  • You actually understand these statements and pass them on to all your Iowa friends.

Saturday, October 20, 2007

My TV Shows

Here's what I watch. Any other hot tips?

Shows with Hot Angsty Boys
  • Smallville (Kryptonian cute!)
  • Supernatural (hot brother-on-brother action!)
  • Dexter (munchy mass murderer!)
  • Kyle XY (cute pseudo-teenage chicken!)
  • Journeyman (butch Rome guy!)
Get Real!
  • America's Next Top Model (embarrassing but helped with the wedding pictures!)
  • American Idol
  • The X Factor (British American Idol with Simon Cowell, Dani Minogue, Sharon Osbourne and Louis Walsh)
  • Dancing with the Stars (new!)
  • Survivor 438: The Ghetto
Sci Fi Fabulous
  • Stargate Atlantis
  • Heroes
  • Battlestar Galactica
  • Eureka
  • Ghost Whisperer
  • Medium
  • Doctor Who
  • Torchwood
My Bitches
  • Desperate Housewives (multi-bitch extravaganza)
  • Bones (especially Angela Attitude)
  • Dirt (Courtney is the uber-bitch!)
  • Dead Like Me 
  • America's Next Top Model
Crime
  • CSI Las Vegas
  • CSI Miami
  • CSI New York (sort of)
  • CSI West Des Moines
  • CSI Timbuktu

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Doing great!

Hey y'all, whassup?!?!

Life here is good. Week 3 post-surgery and feeling great!

Catch-up

Work is crazy right now - had to cancel a trip to London at the last minute because there's so much going on at work I need to take care of, but the good news is that I have the energy to take it on! Took me about 2-3 weeks to bounce back, but I'm good now!

Had some dear friends over from the U.S. (Las Vegas and San Francisco) to visit. We spent a gorgeous Saturday together weekend before last. It was great that both the ladies had had weight-loss surgery as well (2-3 years ago) and had booked impressive results - like 250 lbs. between the two of them. They were great support. Was fun to see you, Karen & John and Virginia & Michael!

In the retail therapy department, I've now definitively tossed all Windows-based PC's out of the house (except Wilbert's) and am now running three Mac's and a total Apple ecosystem with AppleTV and iPod's. LOVE IT! It actually works with very little trouble. Once I'd converted to Vista, I'd totally lost faith in PC's. The Dutch Consumer Protection Union has even called for a boycott of Vista because there have been so many complaints. My latest addition is a 24-inch new iMac... LOVE IT! Takes up next to no space and is gorgeous. Multi-tasks like a dream (mostly) and have finally completed the first wedding video (NL version) with it. So from now on, call me Big Mac Daddy! But in about a year you'll have to start cutting out the "Big" part. :-)

Yesterday had my first truly solid meal in three weeks. 100 grams of beef tenderloin (tiny), a sweet potato and mixed steamed veggies. I was in heaven! Tasted better than anything I'd ever eaten. And I handled it just fine and was also totally satisfied. Hope this continues!

One problem I have is that after a couple weeks of inactivity (except for some good walks), my back is pretty weak about about 5 a.m., no matter what position I've been sleeping in, it starts to hurt. Sometimes I can get back to sleep, sometimes not, so haven't been sleeping very well as a result. Think I'll go to physical therapy again.

Starting to enjoy Joost (not the guy who works for me, the Internet video service!). Sort of cool to have in a window on my desktop while I'm writing or surfing. Give it a try.

That's the general update for now! Oh, also welcome to our new little neighbor baby, Jason and congratulations Darren and Annette!

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Back to Normal... sort of...

I went back to work on Monday after two weeks off post lap-band surgery, and my energy has bounced back and I'm feeling pretty good. Still some pain in my chest but that's to be expected (from the port, if you understand what that means). I'm still on a liquid diet, but only about 5 more days to go on that, yeah! Had a chat with my dietition today and wasn't very happy with the menu she was suggesting, but she's going to send it on paper with alternatives and I'll figure something out... the goal is the goal and the goal is sacred! 115kg by 24 September 2009. Watch this space!

Next week off to England again for some fun sales training, then the week after that is our quarterly sales meeting in Singapore, then a show in Hong Kong and a stop by our office in Beijing, so keeping busy!

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Rumors of my demise are exaggerated...

Hey loyal blog readers! I'm here, I'm alive, I slept a FEW hours in the night, I've peed about 7 IV bags and 4 cups of tea out, and I'm completely inflated with gas! Side effect of the surgery. 

Things went well. Very friendly doctor with reassuring eyes, Dr. Behrens, and I came through it with flying colors. I'm already up and about (a little bit) and can take care of my basic needs, so that's a good sign. About to try breakfast soon - doubt it will be more than yoghurt.

But I digress. Life is pretty good today. I'm looking forward to seeing Wilbert when he arrives, and looking forward to going home soon to start our new adventure there! Many thanks to all those who have been pulling for me!

Monday, September 24, 2007

My weight loss goals

  • Lose enough to be rid of joint/back pain and stop snoring [DONE!]
  • Have physical activity become non-threatening/non-painful [DONE!]
  • Create and stick to a regular work-out regime [DONE!]
  • Shop in a "normal" store for clothes (at least shirts). [DONE!]
  • Lose 100lbs/45.35kg [DONE!]
  • Become "obese" and not "morbidly obese" according to the BMI scale. [DONE!]
  • Lose 50kg/110kg [DONE!]
  • Weigh my sophomore year in college weight (135.6kg/299lbs) which is also my lowest weight in 20 years [DONE!]
  • Buy pants/trousers in a "normal" store (may be post-surgery)
  • Have somebody attractive suggest something indecent. :-)
  • Get rid of the extra skin I now have as a result of extreme weight gain/loss.
  • MAYBE Become "overweight" and not "obese" according to the BMI scale (106kg/234lbs), though with my big build and musculature this is optional.
  • No longer have this post always be the one on top of my blog.
  • And perhaps the most difficult of all... no longer think of myself as "fat".

Sunday, September 23, 2007

If you want to know how surgery went...

I probably won't be able to let everyone know personally how things went that quickly on Monday, but I'll try to get a quick update to my BLOG ASAP, perhaps just to the Twitter box on the right side of this page. So if you're interested, check back Monday afternoon/evening!

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Naturally Protected

I usually don't like to identify the company that I work for, but I am too proud of the new ad campaign we launched this month to contain myself, so here it is. Love the visuals and how we link nature to our business! Good job, team!

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Change of blog plans...

Moved my surgery blog to Blogger... easier to manage.

Surgery Next Monday!

Assuming the supposed case of shingles (which hasn't gotten any worse) doesn't get in the way, then I will be going into Rijnstate Hospital in Arnhem next Monday morning (24 September) at 10 a.m. to start my new life as a skinny person. Am going to the doctor this morning to see if this is really even a case of shingles or not, as I'm beginning to doubt.

Ready for it, want it done and over with, and am so happy to have Wilbert on this journey with me for support (he's great at that!). We're going to stay in a hotel there on Sunday night so that Monday morning doesn't get all stressy with a 2-hour drive, and he'll stay there during my one night in the hospital (knock wood). 

Will update you as soon as results of operation are known! Your prayers would be much appreciated. It's not an inherently risky operation (laparoscopic), all surgery is somewhat risky, and there's a 5% chance it could convert to an open operation (which I'm not sure I want). We're hoping for the best! And for me to be a supermodel by 41. :-)

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Not just for roofs anymore!

The stress of the last three months (wedding, work and upcoming surgery) has earned me another ride on the Shingles Express. Not what I needed a week before surgery.

The left side of my upper back has been hurting for about a week, and physical therapy didn't help (though drugs did a bit). Seized up and irritated - sort of a burning sensation with occasional shots of severe pain if I stressed it too much (mostly due to poor posture).

This morning a fairly sizable rash appeared on my side - long and blistery. I put 2 and 2 together and headed to the emergency clinic where the doctor agreed with my diagnosis and prescribed me valacyclovir and a lidocaine salve. Said he usually wouldn't give me anything, but that considering my upcoming surgery, a more aggressive approach was called for.

To top it all off, I'm sitting at the airport on my way to England for three days (doctor told me there was no reason I couldn't). So not happy about being away from home too. At least it will be three fairly calm days of training.

So that's all my moaning and whining for now. Wish me luck!

Friday, September 07, 2007

Exhausted, satisfied, home

Wow, it's been a whirlwind summer. First the wedding (and all the many months of preparation), then my company's annual 3-day customer meeting, which I was responsible for (luckily with some fabulous help from several colleagues), and now the IBC  trade show in Amsterdam, which lasts for five days, including through the weekend. Luckily one of my able-bodied colleagues was responsible for that, though I gave a lot of support here and there with various things. Add to that our new advertising campaign, and this is the single biggest body of work I believe I have ever delivered in such a short period of time. 

I've been generally really happy with the outcome of everything. The wedding went off exactly the way we wanted it to, and I've actually enjoyed it more after it happened than while it was happening (which is somewhat typical of me - I'm a 3 on the enneagram if you know what that means). The User Group went off very well with nary a hitch (one or two small ones), though the content could have been fresher - partly my fault and partly the fault of the industry where technology has outpaced the ability of companies to implement it effectively, so things are sort of stagnant or frozen right now. The ad campaign is really fun and unique and gorgeous, but there are a few execution flaws we might have to fix - it all had to happen on such tight time schedules, it was crazy. But generally, I'm quite happy with everything. And quite grateful to the great (mostly new!) colleagues that helped pull it all off. Good job, team!

Now, after finishing IBC and a short trip to England (robbing me of yet another weekend day), it is going to be all about me for a while. I should get called for my surgery sometime the week of the 17th, and then will know exactly when I have to go in the next week. I've been talking a lot about it to people, who are curious about how it works. That has lead me to get pretty enthusiastic about the whole affair - sort of an Adjustable Gastric Band Ambassador - and I'm feeling really ready for it. 

Last but not least, I'm really happy to be back at home with Wilbert and not so much of a stress chicken (cool Dutch term) as I've been. Time to get back to basics, and I'm looking forward to it.

Friday, August 31, 2007

Same-Sex Marriage in Iowa?

Far from a done deal, but a step in the right direction!

Iowa court rules same-sex couples can marry

Story Highlights

  • Six couples file lawsuit in 2005 after they were denied marriage licenses
  • Suit: Denials violated equal-protection, due-process under state constitution
  • District judge rules: Same-sex couples "may not be denied licenses to marry"
  • Court strikes down state law declaring marriage only between man and woman
(CNN) -- An Iowa district court ruled Thursday that same-sex couples can marry based on the state constitution's guarantee of equal treatment, court documents show.

The ruling was in response to a December 2005 lawsuit brought by six same-sex couples seeking to wed. They were denied marriage licenses and claimed such treatment violates equal-protection and due-process clauses in the Iowa constitution.

The court also struck down a state law declaring valid marriages are only between a man and woman.

The Iowa District Court for Polk County advances the case to the Iowa Supreme Court which will make a final decision on same-sex marriage, according to Lambda Legal, a gay and lesbian legal organization representing the couples.

The 63-page ruling, written by Judge Robert Hanson states: "Couples, such as plaintiffs, who are otherwise qualified to marry one another may not be denied licenses to marry or certificates of marriage or in any other way prevented from entering into a civil marriage pursuant to Iowa Code Chapter 595 by reason of the fact that both persons compromising such a couple are of the same sex."

The law describing marriage as between a man and a woman, "constitutes the most intrusive means by the state to regulate marriage. This statute is an absolute prohibition on the ability of gay and lesbian individuals to marry a person of their choosing," Hanson wrote.

Lambda says the six couples are all in long-term relationship - one couple has been together for six years, another couple has been together for 17 years.

"Three of the couples are raising children, others are planning families, and all want the responsibilities of marriage and the protections only marriage can provide," according to the organization.

"We respectfully disagree with the court's decision, and we're going to ask for a stay," said Polk County Attorney John Sarcone.

He said his office will examine whether it's best to file a motion to reconsider. But barring a change in the court's opinion, Sarcone will appeal the ruling.

Co-counsel for the plaintiffs along with Lambda Legal, Dennis Johnson called the ruling "a significant step forward in recognizing the constitutional rights of all Iowans, and it's an amazing day for same-sex couples and their families all across Iowa."

Sunday, August 19, 2007

Beie lekker, man!

Our friend Hans celebrated his belated birthday tonight with a party celebrated in South African style! Hans was inspired by his holiday trip last year and, as an accomplished cook, he was able to put together a delicious dinner of South African delicacies (non of which I can remember, unfortunately). It was quite impressive! And the company was lovely as well. Thanks for a lovely evening, Hans and co.!

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Bearforce1: Only in Amsterdam!

Where else could crazy shit like this happen? I can't figure out whether it's the coolest thing I've ever seen or absolute trash. Or both. :-) Enjoy this little postcard from Holland. The big girls are representing!

Big Girls of the World Unite!

You better work, Tyra!

A New Blog Is Born

Instead of boring you lot to death with my endless ramblings about my upcoming weight loss surgery, I've decided to set up a new blog specifically for this topic (since Blog Diversification seems to be all the rage these days, Timo!). It will also be a kind of journal for me and an opportunity to share my experiences with others who are considering going through the same thing. 
The link is on the right side of this page, or click here.

Thursday, August 16, 2007

Gastric Banding Surgery Date Finalized!

I've been in preparation for weight loss surgery for more than a year now; following the process of going to my G.P., going to the Dutch Obesity Clinic, getting insurance approval and then going through a group presentation and pre-operative screening. I could have had the surgery already before the wedding, but decided I would much rather enjoy the wedding without being in recovery from the surgery. So this week I went back and had the final consultation with the anesthesiologist and got the final go-ahead for surgery the week of 24 September. I'll get a call the week ahead of time with an exact date. Exciting and scary!

For anyone who doesn't know what adjustable gastric banding is, check out the Wikipedia article on the topic for a good view of what I'll be facing.

I've essentially gotten to the point now where I can survive going to work everyday and minor outings - and even business trips if pressed to - but that it just plain hurts to do any other physical activity because of my weight. My knees are OK, but my hips and my back give me a lot of trouble. And I can't imagine going into my 40's feeling like this... it's just completely unacceptable to me. So I'm going to do something about it, and to tell the truth, I can't wait. As a matter of fact, I've already started altering my eating patterns in preparation for the surgery.

I should lose 2-4 kgs. per month, so next year this time I could be significantly slimmer, and another year after that, I could be pretty close to my goal. which is around 120 kgs., though we'll have to see what I'm looking like closer to the time. I'll have lots of help along the way... not just supportive husband and friends, but a whole team of experts from the Nederlandse Obesitas Kliniek (NOK) in Hilversum, where I'll be getting physical therapy, group therapy, a nutritionist's advice and other aftercare. 

So I'm scared, excited, can't wait, anxious, hopeful, and ready. Wish me luck! It's time to change my life for the better... and for good.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Congratulations, Barry & Richard!

Our most heartfelt congratulations go out to Barry & Richard, who got married this past Tuesday! Another couple of gorgeous men off the open market! :-) We wish you many happy years together, dear friends. We're here to support you in every way we can! And we can't wait for the party!

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Welcome, Mr. Miyagi


We went to get our hair cut at Carmen's last night, and she told us about a new sushi place in the new neighborhood being built south of town in a sort of strip mall. We were somewhat incredulous... the sushi place on the town square was closed last year, so we figured Purmerend's tastes weren't sophisticated enough to support another Japanese restaurant. But luckily we we wrong!

mr. miyagi
van damplein 22
1448 nb Purmerend
Noord-Holland
Tel.: 0299 416 907

It was fantastic... very modern and lots of natural light. The food was great, and the owner, a Dutch-Chinese guy named John, was engaging, friendly and knowledgeable. We'll be spending a lot of time there, and we encourage you to do the same!

Sunday, August 05, 2007

Download Our Wedding Album!



Gay Pride Amsterdam

Though I was still at home recovering from the head cold I got this week, and Wilbert was working and came home with the same head cold I had, we followed Amsterdam Gay Pride on the local TV channel AT5, where we were not surprised to see our dear friend and renowned Amsterdam drag diva Miss Donna-tella Williams  (a.k.a. Frank, middle above) with her friends Bellissima la Cantante and Charite Carmen (a.k.a. Paul & John).

This year's biggest news items were the inclusion of a boat of gay and lesbian teenagers 16 years old and younger, a boat of heterosexual supporters, and a boat from the Amsterdam city council.

Thursday, August 02, 2007

Sick Chicken

Felt a tickle in my throat on Monday night after dinner, and by Tuesday morning it was a full-on head cold. Went into work for an important meeting and a goodbye lunch for an employee on Tuesday, but paid for it by being flat on my back all day yesterday. This morning it's moved into my chest and I'm coughing up all sorts of stuff, but I'm feeling a bit better. Am probably going to try work tomorrow to get some stuff done before taking it easy this weekend. Going stir crazy already. But can't go more than a few hours without having to lie down, and as soon as I lie down, I have coughing fits again. Blech! Can't wait to get better.

Saturday, July 28, 2007

Girls Gone Wild!

Ah, the scary things that can happen when you play "Vogue" with a bunch of drunken queens at a party! :-) Notice the ring-leader.

Another look back...

Hard to believe it is already a month ago that we got married at MCC-DC in Washington! And we keep enjoying the memories every day. Yesterday, we got a CD-ROM in the post from our dear friends Harvey & Ellen in Maryland with some more pictures we'd not yet seen. We especially loved this one, which shows us in our wedding finery with some custom boutonnieres with a Dutch wooden tulip from the floating flower market in Amsterdam and a U.S. mini-calla lily. 
Thanks to everyone who contributed photos so far: Josh (especially!), Tim, Michael, Jeff, Merrick (a budding photographer since she was 4!), Kahunya (habari, bibi!), and Jeroen (in NL).

Anyone else have any pictures to share? Let us know!

Friday, July 27, 2007

www.Starbucks.nl


Well, it might not seem like a big deal to you, but after more than 10 bloody years of waiting, there is FINALLY a fucking Starbucks in The Netherlands! The cruel irony is that it might as well be inside Fort Knox, because you can only go there if you are flying to a country that's part of the EU - it's at the airport behind security!

The other bad news is that my little test of it today showed that at least a few of the Dutch staff have not yet mastered the friendly American Starbucks style:

Me: "Is that my caramel frappaccino?"
Her: "Does that look like caramel to you?"
Me: "Well, yes, it does."
Her: Eyes roll. 

So there's still some major work to do there. Hope they open one outside of security somewhere soon... it's about time!

Monday, July 23, 2007

Big Mac Daddy

Sold some stock to pay off the final wedding bills and decided to spend some of the leftover proceeds on a MacBook Pro, my first serious step into the world of Apple. So far I'm loving it to death, and am even more excited about the upcoming Leopard operating system in October! More on my new Mac experiences soon!

Friday, July 13, 2007

Kind Words

Today I received a really lovely e-mail from a dear uncle that I didn't know that well growing up but that I've really admired and enjoyed spending a lot of time with in my adult life. He sort of floored me with what he had to say to me:

Dear Christopher,

In the afterglow of your and Wilbert's wedding, I have found myself thinking about the relationship you and I have formed as adults over the past fifteen years or so. Recently, I have been struck by how you have made your own life into what you needed by the most amazing series of choices and commitments. You have made decisions and done things for which ordinary folks would lack the courage. Your actions have been faithful to who you are and have had an enormous positive impact on those who love you. I admire you very much and wish nothing but the best for you in life.

It's true that I've taken some pretty big leaps/risks in life, and that's because somewhere I learned to trust my intuition, to not question myself too much, and to commit to something and trust the universe will rise to support me. I'm grateful for this feedback, and very grateful for the life I have and the wonderful people like Fritz I have in it.

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Josh & Lorie in Holland

My brother Josh just got a new job and is about to move with his lovely wife Lorie to Missouri, so to celebrate this important transition in their lives, they popped over to Europe for a few weeks of rest and relaxation... and American-style speed sight seeing. :-) They stayed with us for five days and as usual were a pleasure to be with. We had dinner one night at Wilbert's parents' in Hoorn. Good luck with your new life, guys!

Holland USA!


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Originally uploaded by Christo's POV
One of the oddities of the area I grew up in is the small town of Pella, Iowa. Founded by a group of about 800 Dutch colonists seeking religious freedom and economic opportunity in the mid 1800's, it still very actively promotes its heritage today.

Wilbert and I drove over for the day and enjoyed this little bit of Holland in the USA during our honeymoon trip. It was fun and a bit strange all at the same time! :-)

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

Bye Bye USA & Thank you!


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Originally uploaded by Christo's POV
It was a wonderful trip and we got to see oodles of wonderful people! We were honored by your presence at our wedding and shower, and enjoyed seeing you elsewhere too! Thanks for your warmth, generosity and hospitality!

This photo was from our last morning in Des Moines where we had breakfast at Perkins with my parents and dear friend Stacey (who is a loyal blog reader, gorgeous and available!). :-)

The trip home was without incident. Actually half-way comfortable for economy seats in a 767. Made it back to work today and am doing OK despite a crap night's sleep. Good to see everyone back at work, they're nice people. :-)

iPhone


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Leaving the AT&T store on the 29th of June with my brand new iPhone. Who cares that the phone doesn't work (for now) in Europe... everything else that does work is simply AMAZING. It does exactly what it promises to do in the ads, and sets a new standard for the consumer electronics industry. Let's hope they are up to the challenge like Apple is!

Sunday, July 01, 2007

20th High School Reunion


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It was fun! A really large group of down-to-earth, nice people. Had a great time and there were a few surprises. One "he" is now a "she", and the last person in the world I expected to be gay brought his boyfriend. Heartwarming moments. :-) Was lots of fun.